SIX TRANSFORMATIVE SHIFTS

SIX TRANSFORMATIVE SHIFTS

Last month I celebrated six years of living in the Sunlight of the Spirit. (Fellow Texan Brene Brown refers to it as Sober and Sparkly, and she just celebrated 23 years!) However one refers to it, the essence of recovery is all about transformation: a profound shift that leads to lasting change. As a way to honor my recovery, throughout May I shared via Instagram six transformative shifts I’ve experienced during my journey.

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MY BIGGEST "AHA!" (SO FAR)

MY BIGGEST "AHA!" (SO FAR)

If I were to pick my biggest “aha” from everything I’ve learned during my own journey of transformation, it would be the following: Being intensely focused on the present moment is not my default setting. My second biggest “aha”? Making the now the primary focus requires letting go. That’s MUCH easier said than done!

Letting go brings me back to the present moment where I’m grounded and “in the flow.” When I’m in that state I can access external and internal resources, especially my strengths. That, in turn, helps me make more optimal decisions while dramatically improving overall life satisfaction.

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BASEBALL AND MEANINGFUL EXPERIENCES

BASEBALL AND MEANINGFUL EXPERIENCES

My true north is meaningful relationships, meaningful experiences, and meaningful work—in that order, always. As the 2019 Major League Baseball season gets underway, I look back at a meaningful experience connected to baseball: Game 5 of the 2017 World Series. I’m incredibly grateful to the Houston Astros and the Los Angeles Dodgers for delivering a meaningful experience to three people with whom I have meaningful relationships. I’m also grateful that I now get to share this story with each of you.

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WHAT TAILWINDS ARE PROPELLING YOU THIS YEAR?

WHAT TAILWINDS ARE PROPELLING YOU THIS YEAR?

Even though the year is still unfolding, it’s already brought exciting opportunities and new people into the Ben Kiker Group. That leads me to news I’m thrilled to share—and news I’m incredibly grateful for! We just welcomed a new team member, Yvonne Hunt, who joins the Ben Kiker Group as a recovery coach. A key tenet to Yvonne’s coaching is finding one’s “sacred space.” Similar to my morning practice that helps me get in the flow, Yvonne’s sacred space is where she finds her focus, her direction, and her path forward. I hope you enjoy reading what a sacred space means to Yvonne—and why we all should establish one.

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FIND YOUR FUEL FOR 2019

FIND YOUR FUEL FOR 2019

Some days, when we have lots of fuel in the tank, GSD is a breeze. Other days, when we have less, it’s tough. That’s when just the right comment can make a BIG difference, reminding us that we have the ability and the energy to get it done. One of the best places I find my fuel is what I read, and of everything I read, watched, or listened to last year, one book stands out in terms of impact: “Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life,” written by Fr. Richard Rohr. For my first blog of the new year, I selected twelve quotes from Fr. Rohr’s book that added soul nourishing fuel to my tank, for which I’m grateful. Here’s hoping they do the same for you!

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STOPPING BY 20 MINUTES WITH BRONWYN PODCAST

STOPPING BY 20 MINUTES WITH BRONWYN PODCAST

Earlier this month I had the opportunity to put a giant exclamation point on 2018 when Bronwyn Saglimbeni, host of the hit podcast 20 Minutes with Bronwyn, invited me to join her show. Our nearly 20 year relationship—and the experience jamming with Bronwyn on this podcast— connects deeply to my ‘true north’ of meaningful relationships, meaningful experiences, and meaningful work. Most importantly, the work we did when Bronwyn stopped by my office with her energy and two very impressive looking microphones was meaningful in ways that still resonates with me. Of the hundreds of positive shoutouts we’ve received since the episode aired, this tweet from a client is a favorite: “How do visionaries and people who #JustGSD think and talk? Listen to this podcast and find out.”

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HERE'S HOW I START EVERY DAY

HERE'S HOW I START EVERY DAY

A friend recently remarked, “I bet when you get overwhelmed you just muscle your way through the situation.” While taking action is one of my favorite ‘go to’ techniques to work through a situation, there’s something important that precedes the action: becoming grounded, regulated, and in the flow. My ability to successfully GSD is directly correlated to being in the flow! And getting in the flow starts with my morning practice.

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SUPERHERO POWER I WISH I HAD

SUPERHERO POWER I WISH I HAD

I just returned from a trip to Hawaii. Included with all the things I love about Hawaii was something self-generated that I didn’t love. My ITG (Insane Thought Generator) conspired with my ISG (Insane Story Generator) to create a narrative that I didn’t just attach to—I sunk for my teeth into it! That’s when I thought of a recent conversation where someone asked, “What superhero power would you like to have?” I thought about the question for a moment before answering: “I wish I had the ability to instantly let go.” It wasn’t instant, but I was able to eventually let go - and relish the spirit of aloha - using these three techniques.

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