My Biggest Rock for 2025

Over the past 30 days I’ve helped clients hone in on their Big Rocks for the year ahead. As part of that process clients often ask about my Big Rocks, which I’m happy to share – especially my biggest Big Rock for 2025:

Lower my preoccupation with my thoughts and feelings.

How That Big Rock Emerged

Late last year I experienced a two week stretch of feeling completely unmotivated. While clients got that BBE (Big Ben Energy), everyone else got something less. The most frustrating part? I became preoccupied with why I was feeling unmotivated. Channeling Carrie Mathison from the terrific Showtime series Homeland I began creating a mental ‘evidence wall’ to answer that question.

If you’re smiling at that visual, just remember Carrie isn’t the only character going deep – I mean really deep – to solve a mystery. Ben Stone had his evidence wall in Manifest, and Charles, Oliver, and Mabel have their evidence bulletin board in Only Murders in the Building.

That’s a LOT of string, thumbtacks, tape – and energy!

As I continued my attempt to solve what I perceived to be a complex problem, my husband Rick remarked, “You realize you’re not the only person feeling unmotivated right now.” His comment resulted in a major aha moment: it is not necessary to clear an eight foot space and stock up on yarn from Michael’s to create an evidence wall on every thought and every feeling I’m experiencing. That, in turn, led to the Big Rock I outlined above.

Try These Three Things

If you’d like to join me on this journey of lowering your preoccupation with your thoughts and feelings, try these three actions:

  1. Dr. Dan Siegel, the founder of Mindsight Institute, describes thoughts and feelings as the weather. Shift FROM being in the weather TO observing the weather. It also helps to remember 90% of the roughly 60,000 thoughts we have a day are repetitive.

  2. Find a helpful quote. Here’s one of my all time favorites from Eckhart Tolle: “The biggest thing we need to let go of is our thinking. We over identify with it.”

  3. Remember that your ability to create an evidence wall to solve a complex problem is a gift. Like all of your gifts, use it wisely.

I trust the New Year is off to a solid start for you. If it’s not – and you’re feeling stuck or preoccupied with something you’d like to let go of – please reach out. I’d love to help.

Ben Kiker