Last week I had a jam session with a client who opened the session by sharing, “I’m overwhelmed with uncertainty, people who are all over the map, and the noise in my head.” I’m hearing similar feedback from many clients right now! The sense of being overwhelmed—and let’s face it, 2020 is full of overwhelming situations—instantly takes us out of the present moment.
Read MoreOne of my favorite memories from early recovery was calling my then-sponsor one morning, sharing my plans for the day, and hearing him respond with the following before hanging up on me: “You need to Slow The Fuck Down” (STFD). Although I found it incredibly rude at the time, that feedback today forms the basis of something I coach clients to practice: hit the pause button and pull up.
Read MoreBronwyn Saglimbeni, host of 20 Minutes with Bronwyn, recently reached out to let me know she was starting season 3 of her podcast early to help people navigate this challenging time. When Brownwyn introduced our conversation she noted, “performance coach Ben Kiker makes everything better.” I’m grateful for that frame-worthy comment, and for the gift of our conversation!
Read MoreRebecca Zung is a top 1% attorney, master negotiator, speaker, author of bestselling books including Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R., and host of the podcast Negotiate Your Best Life. I met Rebecca last year and instantly connected with her because she definitely knows how to GSD! Rebecca invited me on her show to talk about one of my favorite essentials to GSD: Let Go or Be Dragged.
Read MoreHere’s the way I describe my Insane Thought Generator (ITG): imagine the conference room table of Ben, Inc. Sitting around the table are all of the strengths, talents, and skills that make me uniquely me. All the way at the end of the table—usually hiding—is my mischievous ITG. My ITG manufactures lots of unhelpful things all designed to distract me from the task at hand, preventing me from GSD (Getting Shit Done).
Read MoreEvery day we have the opportunity to take jumps big and small. For me, fear is often the single biggest inhibitor in taking the jump. That’s when the universe sends me exactly the right quote with a burst of energy. Here are twelve of my favorite energy-boosting quotes from last year. My wish is that you take many jumps in the year ahead. And, if you need a boost, I hope one of these provides that for you, too!
Read MoreHave you ever wondered what it’s like to work with a coach? Have you ever wondered what it’s like to work with me as a coach? Keep reading to learn how podcast host Bronwyn Saglimbeni reached out to me when she needed help with her next big jump. After our work Bronwyn asked me back on her show to talk about the experience. Her goal? “Expose my process of getting help in case you need it, too.”
Read MoreI recently delivered a workshop titled Leading During Uncertainty. The workshop is designed to help leaders stay present to make optimal decisions while navigating through the uncertainty connected to business and organization transformation.
At one point I mentioned, “Anxiety does not contribute to outcomes.” In unison several people raised their hand and asked, “Can you repeat that?” I suspect my presentation-stopping statement hit home with the audience because we all seem to be experiencing peak anxiety! In my latest blog I share a powerful mindfulness technique for hitting the pause button on anxiety—and three actions that do contribute to outcomes.
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