Earlier this month I had an In The Moment coaching exchange with a client who was concerned about backing out from a previous commitment. She ended her message with a question, “Am I a terrible person?”
The answer for her—and for you if you’re experiencing something similar—is no!
When I was introduced to Kelsey Murphy, I knew we’d have a great conversation because one of my favorite quotes from Joan Rivers appears on Kelsey’s website: “Listen, I wish I could tell you it gets better. But, it doesn’t get better. You get better!”
Read MoreI just put the finishing touches on a keynote presentation for a client’s virtual conference. The client is doing what so many organizations are doing right now: reimagining work as we “work through the middle” of this unprecedented time. They asked me to speak on a topic that’s deeply personal to me: developing resilience to navigate overwhelming moments.
Read MoreLast week I had a jam session with a client who opened the session by sharing, “I’m overwhelmed with uncertainty, people who are all over the map, and the noise in my head.” I’m hearing similar feedback from many clients right now! The sense of being overwhelmed—and let’s face it, 2020 is full of overwhelming situations—instantly takes us out of the present moment.
Read MoreOne of my favorite memories from early recovery was calling my then-sponsor one morning, sharing my plans for the day, and hearing him respond with the following before hanging up on me: “You need to Slow The Fuck Down” (STFD). Although I found it incredibly rude at the time, that feedback today forms the basis of something I coach clients to practice: hit the pause button and pull up.
Read MoreBronwyn Saglimbeni, host of 20 Minutes with Bronwyn, recently reached out to let me know she was starting season 3 of her podcast early to help people navigate this challenging time. When Brownwyn introduced our conversation she noted, “performance coach Ben Kiker makes everything better.” I’m grateful for that frame-worthy comment, and for the gift of our conversation!
Read MoreRebecca Zung is a top 1% attorney, master negotiator, speaker, author of bestselling books including Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R., and host of the podcast Negotiate Your Best Life. I met Rebecca last year and instantly connected with her because she definitely knows how to GSD! Rebecca invited me on her show to talk about one of my favorite essentials to GSD: Let Go or Be Dragged.
Read MoreHere’s the way I describe my Insane Thought Generator (ITG): imagine the conference room table of Ben, Inc. Sitting around the table are all of the strengths, talents, and skills that make me uniquely me. All the way at the end of the table—usually hiding—is my mischievous ITG. My ITG manufactures lots of unhelpful things all designed to distract me from the task at hand, preventing me from GSD (Getting Shit Done).
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